I’ve never experienced major surgery, my biggest fear before having a kid was being tortured, and I have a very, very, VERY low tolerance to pain. I cry when I stub my toe and menstrual cramps make me throw up. So, you could imagine my “excitement” when my doctor told me I was going to need an emergency c-section.
After 30 hours of active labor, and it was clear that the inducement drugs were not working successfully, my poor little body had enough. Almost 35ish hours after I had arrived at the hospital for my inducement, I still had not exceeded seven centimeters. The medicine was trying to speed along my birthing process and my body was not having it. So, emergency c-section was the only option.
After an hour-long panic attack, here is how I survived my c-section:
I had both my mom and my husband with me and they were both very much aware of the personal nightmare I was heading into. They used lots of words of encouragement, and my husband stood right by my side.
I was blessed to have an amazing doctor who talked me through the whole process, understood my concerns and allowed my mother to be in the room right up until the surgery started. The nurses and anesthesiologist were all extremely supportive.
I’m a huge baby when it comes to pain and I’m not afraid to admit it. I won’t take cold medications because I don’t like to put chemicals in my body, but you better believe I am popping some Ibuprofen if I get a pounding headache.
Once I realized that I was not making it of the delivery alive without the epidural, I was not afraid to reap all the benefits. As soon as the pain medication was available, I was hitting that button. So, during surgery I made that loud and clear to the anesthesiologist.
My husband and the Nurses
Although the pain was horrendous, not being able to bond with my baby immediately after hurt the most. But my husband and the nurses did a great job of helping me handle my baby and took great care of her when I was having a hard time managing the pain. I could not get out of bed for two days and having someone available to help was important to me.
The Belly Band
After the surgery, my core was completely different. I felt as if my insides would just fall out and onto the floor. Standing up was a challenge and it was extremely uncomfortable. I used a Velcro belly band that wrapped tight around my stomach and helped support my weak core. I was grateful for this and defiantly recommend it.
Don’t plan on leaving the hospital in your cute yoga pants or your pre-pregnancy jeans, especially if you’ve had a c-section. You’re probably still going to have a small baby belly and you most defiantly wont want anything pressing against your incision. I wore my husband’s clothes for two weeks after delivery. I looked like a mess without the hot! It was terrible, and I didn’t go out into public those first two weeks.
Whether you delivered by C-Section or not, the hospital will probably give you mesh underwear. If you delivered vaginally it’s going to be an absolute mess down there and you’re going to want the loose and airy mesh underwear. If you had a c-section, it’s still going to get messy and, your incision will probably bleed so it will be nice to be able to throw the undies away after use. Your incision is going to be pretty sensitive and not to mention, painful so the mesh will be breathable and light.
Give yourself plenty of time to recover. If you can take pain like a champ and your body is a weird science fiction vessel of unnatural healing, then all the power to you. If not, plan to relax and take it easy. You don’t have to jump right in to working out and you shouldn’t. Not only did you build and carry a human for nine months, but you also had major surgery. Your body has been through a lot. It’s been almost 6 months for me and I am still recovering. My scar is still sensitive and still hurts at times. During the surgery your organs are moved around and may possibly be removed temporarily so they can feel sensitive and painful too.
If you are like me, and you’re skipping over this article because you are so deathly afraid of having a c-section that you are refusing to accept that it could happen, DON’T. I refused to listen to any advice because I was too afraid. I was so scared of having a c-section that I refused to talk about it or even prepare for it. I was not prepared and therefor I was not ready for it and it was extremely overwhelming for me. Much more overwhelming than it had to be, so take the advice, even if the word c-section makes you pass out on the exam table in your OBGYN’s office, (yea that really happened) and ask questions.
If you are having a hard time managing your pain, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether it’s as simple as needing a rest, then ask your husband to take the baby for a little bit, or if its severe call your doctor.
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